Be Careful of Using the “How’s life?” Sentence for Cancer Patientsadmin
Jakarta – For a companion to breast cancer patients, the selection of words and sentences is considered very important. In addition to avoiding misperception, it also gives the impression that a companion is empathetic, not sympathetic.
The Dharmais Cancer Hospital’s Medical Rehabilitation Clinical Psychologist Nelly Hursepuny, M.Psi said one of the sentences that need to be avoided is “How’s Life?”. Although trivial, apparently this sentence can create a negative impression if asked at your first meeting.
“Try not to use the sentence, moreover if you haven’t met the patient,” Nelly told Jurnas.com, after the TUV Rheinlad Recertification event “Optimizing the Companion Role of Breast Cancer Patients” of Indonesian Breast Cancer Foundation (YKPI) chaired by Linda Agum Gumelar, on Saturday ( 9/22).
“The patient will wonder how far the companion has known her. It seems more like a chit chat,” she added.
Instead of using the How’s life’ question, Nelly suggested that companions use other questions that are neutral in tone, or better introduce themselves first, so that patients know the companion.
“The first impression is 3-7 minutes, opening the chance for the extent to which patients accept you as their companion,” Nelly said.
Nelly added, in addition to assistants from volunteers, families also have a very central role in providing support to patients.
As revealed by Nelly, breast cancer patients need moral and social support to overcome psychological distress after a doctor’s verdict.
“They experience psychological conditions such as fear, anxiety, and excessive worry. They need emotional support from their closest friends, both family and companions,” she said.